After the story each girl found their flower and took their seat. And they proceeded to stare blankly at the table. They had no clue what to do...it was funny. My mom and I got them started on their tea. Slowly but surely they all dove in. Here is what was on the menu...
Three kinds of tea with sugar cubes
Strawberry scones
Maple cinnamon scones
Mini cinnamon sugar muffins
Mini cookie sandwiches dipped in sprinkles
Carrot sticks- for good measure (;
PB & J cut out with heart shaped cookie cutters
Fruit cups
Mini Cupcakes
and peanuts...the only request from the birthday girl herself!

Some girls ate ok, but for the most part they picked and didn't really eat. But it was still just so pretty. I used my moms antique tea cups (her idea not mine!) and set everything out on glass platters. It was just so lovely.
I should add that nothing got broken until hubby was driving the tea cups and tea pots back to Moms house...something must have shifted and part of one of the tea pots broke off. I. Felt. Horrible!
This way no matter how much mixing happened they would only end up with a shade of purple instead of brown. You could also do combos like red, yellow, orange, and white or green, blue, yellow, and white...so on and so forth, but you get the idea. As the girls finished painting I had coloring pages and activity sheets for them to work on while they waited. 
I actually did this largely due to the fact that I baked 150 mini cookies for tea and needed to do something with the massive amount of leftovers!!! If your curious
After the girls had their hat and pearls on I had them sit in front of a giant teacup made of foam board and scrapbook paper and took their picture! I had Steven get the pictures developed within an hour so each girl could take it home at the end of the party! This was his one and only job!
The pictures turned out SO great! This was a favorite of the Mom's too ;)

I decided to make it a big girl party and not a princess tea party... I have a huge belief that there is more to life when your little than just pink princess crap. And guess what folks? SHE LOVED IT! 